Jumping right into an explosive topic.

More than one person that I loved with all my heart was raped and I myself suffered several incidents of sexual assault though I was never raped.

I have been too scared to be with anyone I was attracted to all my life. I don’t even know who I am attracted to because even at the age of 46 I am still too traumatized to be able to be close to anyone.

Yes I am working on this and I am making progress but its been very hard. I’ve lost a lot and I have cried many tears while processing my grief.

Still, I do not agree with the public shaming of rapists. I think this only makes things worse.

If women are being raped then men are raping but rapists are not happy. They are angry and full of shame. These men don’t have any self awareness, they have no idea how to process their feelings. Their anger came from somewhere, all emotions are legitimate but they are in denial about their truth and they are hurting others indiscriminately.

All of this is heartbreaking. Women do not deserve to be at the end of someone’s anger and men deserve to learn to understand themselves and to process their feelings. All of us deserve to love and to be loved.

It is not shaming that will get us there but understanding and open conversation.

A hug to you.