We have more power than we believe when it comes to relationships. I have changed myself and have witnessed others change. This has been a very moving experience for me and I talked about it in this post

https://medium.com/@salmasaad/fixing-my-hurt-616e37a250dd#.y9s7ygbsn

The reason why so many people stay stuck and don’t do the work is because its PAINFUL. I really liked this piece by Mike Essig because it so succinctly explained what doing this type of work feels like

https://medium.com/@OnlyaPoet/downside-of-the-examined-life-c837d62ab247#.i01sj948l